OK, raise your hand if you know a good father! Although the late Jim Morrison once said that “Whoever controls the media, controls the mind”, when it comes to the oftentimes MIA stories of the unsung black fathers who are making a major impact in the world, we refuse to cosign on that. We’re more in the lane of what Will Smith once said: “There’s so much negative imagery about fatherhood. I’ve got a ton of friends who are doing the right thing by their kids, and doing the right thing as a father. How come that’s not newsworthy?”
We totally agree, Will and we’re doing our part! Yeah, despite what the media might be peddling, the reality is there are a lot of black fathers showing up BIG TIME for their children, families and community as a whole.
Take an article that was featured on Sassy Plum, for instance. It cited the fact that when it comes to helping their children with their homework, preparing their meals and doing daily activities with them, Black fathers participate more with their kids than white or Hispanic ones do. (They didn’t make that up either. It’s data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention!) The article goes on to share that while it’s true that many children are raised by single parents “67 percent of black fathers that do live apart from their children see them at least once a month, compared to 59 percent and 32 percent of white and Latino dads, respectively”. Yeah, that pretty much throws the “deadbeat dad” theory out of the water, doesn’t it?
Or how about an article that was published last year on The New York Times website? Guess what its title was: “Black Dads Are Doing Best of All”. It addressed the fact that while reportedly 72 percent of Black children may be born to single mothers, we can’t overlook that many couples are living together even though they may not be married. At the very least, they are healthy co-parents.
Big ups to Huffington Post for their piece entitled “5 Lies We Should Stop Telling About Black Fatherhood”. A point it brought up is that while (unfortunately) many Black children grew up in father-absent homes, that doesn’t prevent them from being good fathers themselves.